Cultural Habits/Dos and Don'ts

Before you read what it is you should and shouldn't do-remember this is not a matter of life or death. Of course, whenever you can, be polite and respectful of Germany's customs and traditions. But on the other hand, don't stress about it. The German people always appreciate a heartfelt effort, and no one will hold it against you if you make a mistake as long as it's not for lack of effort! For even more information follow the related link at the bottom of the page.

• When you are in Germany for the first time, you may notice that people often shake hands. They do not only do so when they meet for the first time, but also when meeting neighbors or friends. Actually, they shake hands on every occasion!
• Whoever studies German or wants to start studying it is bound to stumble over the two forms of address 'DU' and 'SIE'. DU is used in the family and among friends. SIE is used when addressing people you don't know well yet. It should always be the older person who takes the initiative in offering the use of the informal DU. There are exceptions to this rule, though. Young people always communicate on a first-name basis when they are amongst themselves.
• Germans generally do not tend to welcome strangers with open arms or invite them into their homes right away. They usually prefer to extend official invitations and to arrange for a fixed date or appointment. Spontaneity is not one of the Germans' strong suits. But again, the exception proves the rule. Showing up on time for a date or appointment is one of the Germans' major virtues. So if you are invited for 8 p.m., make sure to arrive at 8.15 p.m. at the latest.
• Germans are clean, hard-working, reliable, and follow the rules! These are the attributes that people usually associate with the Germans. Not that there is not a good deal of truth in this characterization. But European influences such as a Mediterranean-inspired enjoyment of life, a French-type laissez-faire attitude, etc. have changed the German lifestyle. Even Germans have realized by now that there is more to life than just work and they have come to appreciate and enjoy lying in the sun and being idle.

A few things to watch out for, especially for Americans: tapping the side of your head does not mean "I'm thinking" to a German. This is instead a rather harsh way of saying "you are crazy or you are not right in the head." Also, when counting, keep in mind that Germans start with their thumb. Holding up your index finger and middle finger while pointing to something will very likely get you three of whatever you would like versus two.